Happy Monday you guys.
The calm before the Holiday week and shopping storm. The Holidays can be a time of so much happiness, joy, love, abundance and can also be a time of lonliness, stress, and change. Neither good or bad but that is just the reality of life. As we approach the New Year people get all consumed with New Years resolutions and the need to completely uproot and change their entire lives. This feeling can be overwhelming and also counter productive as big massive changes all at once don't typically end in consistency overtime. I get asked often "how do I get unstuck" or "how do I find the job or the relationship that I desire". So I thought I would write today about what I do to get unstuck and shift my ENRGI when I am feeling like things aren't moving in the way I desire.
I want to preface this entire post with the fact that we are not always in the "growth" phase of life. I learned this lesson over the past year when I spent over half of my time without employment. As someone who thrives on being busy and "doing" I found myself without a job twice in 8 months. I was most definitely stuck, or so I thought. BUT, this is where the shift in mindset comes into play.
The very first thing I do is shift my words from "I am stuck" to "I am in a transition phase". I then sit with myself for a whatever period of time I need. I get out my pen and paper and ask myself "what is the lesson in here that I am learning?" Oftentimes when we feel we are stuck, we are really just being given the opportunity to evaluate where we are and where we want to go. For the sake of the post I am going to focus on my career because it is what I have been navigating through(but use whatever in your life is feeling stagnant). If you are feeling stuck in your career I want you to do a few things:
- Write down in a journal or piece of paper what you currently enjoy at your job? What you don't enjoy?
- Write down things you are naturally good at? What are things you are good at AND enjoy?
- Evaluate the list and compare to your current situation. Example: I knew I did not want to be in sales. I hated the pressure, management, lack of awareness from the top down and pushing people to buy things they didn't need/want. What I wanted: Freedom over my schedule, help people, travel, seek deeper spiritual meaning, write, speak, and be dedicated to a life of creation.
Now, you have identified what you enjoy, what you don't enjoy and a possible direction for where you want to go. Is there a small action you can take each day to move closer to where you want to go? With that being said, it is also never that straightforward and you might already be taking action, so I understand that. The goal of that exercise is to just bring awareness to what isn't working so you can began to take aligned action in a direction that excites you.
If you are someone who has been taking action and still feel stuck, I have another path for you. A lot of times being "stuck" is just a mindset or way of being that is temporary and can be shifted energetically. A few things I do everyday to mitigate the stuck ENRGI:
- Movement- walking, working out, a different type of exercise LITERALLY moves Enrgi out of your body. If you feel stuck or can't think properly, get outside. Go for a walk and come back.
- Change up your routine- I just implemented this and feel AMAZING. Structure is great but it can also get mundane and make you feel like you are on autopilot. Maybe you go to the gym at a different time, get more rest, walk after dinner, or go to a new workout studio. Small changes in your day can make big changes in your mindset. Even if the change is as small as going for a 15 minute walk at lunch, I promise you will feel differently.
- Rewire my thoughts- each time I feel myself saying "I am stuck" I rephrase it to "I am in a time of change to align me with my destiny". A crossroads in life is a HUGE opportunity to begin again and choose something different if that is what you desire. A simple shift to gratitude for a time of slowness is maybe all you need to appreciate the chapter.
- Talk to friends, mentor, others who are going through something similar or who are where you want to go. Relationships are everything in this world, how can you lean on those closest to you to navigate through the temporary feeling.
I want to end with a short story about a time I felt stuck, which was exactly a year ago. I was laid off of a job I LOVED in August 2022 and had found the next job I would be starting in December 2022. I had spent 4 months going inward, spending time with family, going on yoga retreats, and meditating for hours a day. I remember wishing and praying for a job, a business idea, or something to "happen" in my life. I was forcing things to come but nothing was flowing my way no matter how hard I tried. I had a mentor say "enjoy this time because you might never have it again". Something in that statement really stuck with me because he was so right. By the time December had come, I started a job, was packing and planning to move to Austin and simultaneously met Mitch(my now bf). I spent the next 6 months on the move. I moved in January, started dating Mitch shortly after, worked A LOT, lost my job again in May, had to move out of my apartment in August(don't live at the Watermarq in Austin) and started a business in October. You are not STUCK, you are preparing for a new chapter. There's always a calm before the storm, it's preparation for you to get where you want to go. What seems like a setback is often times a leap in the right direction.